Come Awake

I am in the middle of preparing for a conference this week. I am so excited and overwhelmed all at once. Today is Good Friday, I am sitting here preparing for a women's conference called, Awaken. I heard this song and it is so incredible. I do not know where you are at today but I know where He was at on that day. Check out this video and be encouraged. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sn2a73B0uB0

Eruption of Entitlement

I have noticed this for several years and I cant even begin to imagine how this is affecting our country, our lives, and relationships. It is becoming most common in my generation (we will say the 30 somethings) and younger. It is this ," I am entitled" mentality. I see it everywhere. Honestly, I even see it driving down the road. You watch sometimes when people get cut off the obnoxious words that fly out of the mouths of even a babe when their "right" to the road has been intruded upon. I see 16 year old's "expecting" they are getting a car. Really?? You are 16!! Sweethearts, that is a hard earned piece of metal you are throwing a tantrum about and the fact that it is not being "given" to you because you are.... oh, "of that age to have a car!" It has reared its ugly head in just about everything. Where did this spoiled rotten mentality actually overcome this generation, not to mention the apathy that is coupled with it? Not only are we seeing an eruption of " I am owed or entitled," but we are seeing an apathetic way of life springing up all around us. I have heard the phrase, "I just dont care," more often then I wish I had heard. Do people actually mean they do not care? Maybe! Quite possibly they do not. However, it is causing major problems. No one is entitled or owed a single thing. In fact, what we deserve we actually should be thankful we do not get. There are things in life you need to work really hard at....and with that being able to truly care that you have obtained it so when you get that hard earned promotion, car, dream home, or even a loving spouse....you reallyyyy cherish it.
Think about what you can "give" back once in awhile instead of what you think you are actually "entitled" to receiving!

Culture Crisis? Heart Crisis? What in the world is going on?

This may be just a rant but I really can not believe the lack of compassion exemplified by most people on a daily basis. Maybe I just live in a culture that promotes selfishness and materialism and it is getting to me. I don't know, but I don't like what I see. Not only what I see but what I experience and hear about on a weekly basis. Where is the basic compassion among humanity for another human being? It is as if people are so wrapped up in their own little worlds that they fail to even acknowledge another person.
This is so incredibly wrong and indecent on so many levels it almost brings me to tears. Just this past week I heard a story from a friend who had just started a new job. She went in for training and every nurse that was supposed to train her for her new position looked at each other and declared, "I am not training her! " This was right in front of the womans face and to their boss. Where is the respect?
An elderly man who gives his entire life loving and giving to others is laying sick and dying in the hospital and no one goes to see him. He has lived and reached out to so many people during his life and as he lays there helpless, people could care less. Why? Because they are too busy, too preoccupied, too emotionally detached to even reach out.
A single mom struggles day in and day out to provide for her family and no one offers to help her or support her because they all have their own families and issues to worry about and it would just be an extra expense or burden to try and be there for her once in awhile.
Husbands just up and leaving their wives and never looking back, for no justifiable reasons. Wives are walking away from their husbands and leaving their kids? WHAT is happening? These are just a few examples but the list could go on and on even with people that should be your friends, friends call friends and they are not even returning calls. Elderly people struggle to even drive to the store to get food and meanwhile there are people all around even the most lonely individuals every single day. How sad to be surrounded with more people than ever before on the planet and yet so many people are lonely and lack real and true social connection.
I currently live in a community where there are literally thousands of people right outside my door. Yet, everyone is too busy for everyone else. Most of the people do not even know their neighbors name, let alone feel comfortable to borrow a cup of sugar for crying out loud. This is so saddening to me.
A culture of people so desensitized to humanity and other's around them. It would take just a few moments to show someone some compassion, and give someone in your life the time of day. Or better yet, show someone else that you are not a selfish person-look beyond the nose on your face and discover a new world.

Are you a success?

Many people define success in different ways. Some define how successful they have been by how much money they make, how many friends they have, what sort of people they know, or by how many people that love them. How you determine what makes you a success is what defines who you are as an individual. These qualities are what will make you special and in what areas you will excel in your life.

You have to start by thinking about the very question, "What does it mean to be successful?"

What is it that you want to get out of your life, while you have a life to get anything out of?

These are tough questions in deciding what is behind the forces driving you to go forward in your life. For some people, they do not ever really know what they really want in life. Many go through life sort of floating thinking that life has handed them whatever they are "supposed" to do. And for some, they settle into believing that they could never possibly attain the dream they have deep in their heart. And then there are those who are driven by things that they really do not understand, and at the end of their life they sit there and think about the choices they make and they have regret.

Here are a few quick steps in helping you think about your life and how you view success.

1. Where do you want to be in 5 years? What are the things you want to be doing in 5 years?

2.How will you get there? What are choices I need to be making today to keep me on the right track?

3.What are areas in my life that I want to achieve success with? (health, relationships, finances, etc.)

4. Do you need to establish more balance in those area's? Are there area's where you are functioning in an out of control state that keeps you from moving ahead?

By asking yourself these questions and being honest with yourself about the outcome you can start to give yourself some goals to work towards in changing your future success as an individual and accomplishing your dreams, goals, and needs.

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Where is all the kindness?

It seems sort of juvenile to actually ask someone to be kind, almost as if you were in kindergarten. However, it is very sad but kindergarten is where most people stopped listening. Where is the kindness? We live in a society with so much media surrounding us it is very easy to become desensitized to people's pain or humanity for that matter.

To be kind is to show someone the utmost love and compassion they deserve as a human being. The first step to being kind is to show that you are concerned about them. Take a few steps back out of your own "world" and enter theirs. Be sincere when you speak with them and truly engage in conversation without thinking of how you can chirp in and add your opinion. Understand that your opinion is really ... just an opinion. People need other people, it is the way we are designed. Listening is so important when your trying to be kind to someone else.

Compassion is not naturally given to some people and most people have a mean streak that can actually go very deep. Figure out what inside of you makes you be mean. Hurting people are the one's who hurt people. In order to be kind you have to be healed of your hurt or past disappointments.

Being kind is something that starts to filter into your private life as you choose more wisely with your actions and words. If your kind to someone in public and then behind closed doors you say mean things or verbally attack someone and their character, then your not kind, and your living a lie. Kindness most be a reflection of who you are on the inside not just an act to make others like you.

If you are by nature an unkind person and life's made you mean, than start doing things that are not typically like you as a person. Here are some examples to help you along your start to being a kind person:

1. be more generous
2. if your prone to always give an opinion ... don't
3. listen before you speak
4. stop being so self absorbed and selfish
5. be more compassionate and show love
6. be sincere with your word's
There are many ways one can try to be more kind to those around them. Life will provide the opportunity, it is up to you to take it and help change the world and just maybe someone else's life while your at it.