Creating "The Space"

This year I am adding an all new service to the coaching business. A personal love of design and creative spaces has inspired me to add this as a specialized coaching service.
Finding that perfect space in your home or office that fosters overall well being is essential to focus, regroup, and find peace. What the ideal space looks like will be up to the client and their over all goals for their personal space. If people can start to rethink and redesign small area's at a time in their lives and homes, the transformation can be limitless.
Creating a space and designing the life you want takes time..but it can only happen if you make the choice! Choose today to start living the life you were meant to live!
Design elements considered will be, but not limited to : mood, organization, storage, function, and style.Visit www.allthingshealthycoaching.com for contact information.

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Walking 60 MILES!!!

I am walking 60 miles in 3 days to help raise awareness about breast cancer and in memory of family members I have lost from cancer. I need to raise support in order to walk for the weekend. 100% of the support I raise goes towards cancer research, grants, and to fund free mammograms to women who would never be able to get them otherwise. This is a tax deductible charitable donation. Please consider helping me reach my goal. Any size donation is so appreciated. See my link below to donate.
http://www.the3day.org/site/TR?px=6987834&fr_id=1817&pg=personal

When Clutter Takes Over

Everything is piling up around you and you dont have the time to fix it? Or do you have the time and just avoid it? Clutter continues if you do not take the time to do something about it today! In most cases when there are areas of "clutter" it means that there ares some other things going on in your life. Usually the chaos on the outside is a reflection of deeper things. Stress, laziness, poor health,or even bad relationships can make you feel like you have lost control over certain area's of your life. This is not true! You are the one in charge of what happens when you feel this way.
So what are you supposed to do about it?
Your schedule has been a little crazy, the kids are involved with so much, or you just have way too much work to deal with the clutter, so what happens...it builds and builds. The first thing you really need to do is to set aside a few hours. If you have to plan it ahead of time then do it, make this a priority for your day.
You have to start somewhere so begin by making piles. Grab that big trash can because that's actually going to be one of your "piles". You have to sort through what is needed and what isn't.Over time many people end up storing trash because they just get too busy to sort or throw things away that are taking up precious space. Once you have all the garbage taken out you can then start to organize the mess.
Get a filing cabinet and folders for important papers, receipt's, and bills. Start sorting things out by putting these things first in the piles then later on you will have the cabinet to store them in. Highlight on the tabs which utility or bill that file represents.
Once you have taken hours to complete these steps, and have placed all your papers that are important in files then take a step back and see what's left. Books, videos, anything that can be put on a shelf or a box and label it, do that also, it helps clear the space you need to work or live with out the clutter.


Getting things organized around you will help you think with more clarity and become a healthier person.

Read more: How to Organize Clutter | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/how_4818148_organize-clutter.html#ixzz13aE9DqpS

Personal Organization for Ultimate Living

Keeping yourself organized fosters an environment where you can think clearer, work more effectively, and in the long run become more productive in your day. Reaching your goals are a reality and even more attainable each and every day that you make organization a “mini” goal.  The overall idea of “organizing” your entire life can seem overwhelming and daunting, but if you look at the small area’s first and always work towards the larger tasks, organization then begins to flow.
The first huge overhaul of personal organization can seem like the most challenging. Once things are in order the only thing you as an individual will do then is to make choices. Choices are at the heart of organizational issues. Each individual makes a choice which leads to an action and those actions ultimately direct your lifestyle.
Choices + Actions = Lifestyle

Underestimating “choices” can get you into trouble!
It is the small choices that  ultimately lead you to the bigger one's which in turn greatly affect your life, relationships, career, and health.

Secret stressors causing anxiety?

We all have stress we deal with from time to time, and usually we think of the bigger things: finances, health, or relational issues. There are hidden stressors that actually cause you to internally have anxiety about things you can get control over but first you have to recognize that these are actually there lurking in the back of your mind.
Possible causes of anxiety (hidden stressors):
1. Clutter- Your house is a mess, and you have stacks of unpaid bills and papers laying around in various places. That stack of laundry that is sitting piled up on the dryer or on your floor is staring you right in the face every time you walk past it. There has to be some changes in the way you handle clutter and how you "keep up" with the every day tasks. If you let things go then it will seem ten times bigger in your mind when you do decide to tackle the project. You may have to delegate and ask for some help from a spouse, friend, or a professional. ( This depends on how long you have let it go...if were talking "hoarders" here then call a professional, for smaller tasks like laundry or just basic clutter than gain some ownership today and reclaim your space.)
2. Cell Phone Texting/ Mobile Email- We live in an amazing information age and have 24 hour access to our jobs, friends, and family through a small device worn on your body most of the time or in a purse, your cell phone. The constant sound of a text or email is sending your brain an "urgent" message that there is something you need to address ASAP. Really though...do you really need to address it that  quickly. Take some steps back and understand that you were not meant to be concentrating on so many things at one time in any given day! There are times when you can get back to those who need you and respond to those emails at a time that is not crucial for your health. Dinner time, quiet time, family time, etc...those are areas that you need to be focused and in tune with those around you, it is only polite and also healthy for you to engage with those sitting in front of your face.
3. Facebook/Twitter- YES I did bring out the big boys here in mentioning facebook and twitter in hidden stressors. I think personally that these are great tools for social networking and getting connected with people. However, let us face what is happening here truthfully do you really want to know that your neighbors best friend is hanging her laundry out to dry and oh my goodness, your husband just walked in the door and stepped on the cat as your child was throwing up and you burned dinner. Is that not hilarious that this also happened when you still had time to type that all out and tell 200 of your facebook connections about your dilema? The stress factor here is this, it plays on your emotions as you read about every one else's day as you try to juggle your own. There is life around you meant to be lived and experienced, there are times for facebook but there are also times for many other fulfilling people and activities right in front of you that you could be making a memory with or enjoying a quiet time of peace to yourself. Be comfortable in the quiet of your day...you may learn something about yourself you never knew.
4. Wake up call/Alarm- Did you know that the way you wake up can set the tone for your entire day? Does your alarm blare loudly as you hit the snooze for 45 minutes? Internally you know that that horrible sound is coming again in 9 minutes but yet you still lay there anticipating the extra time to sleep, but yet your really not asleep...your in an in between state of being awake and still tired. New mom's and dad's struggle with this for many months, they can not wake up to peace, a screaming child wanting fed is now the stressor that pulls them from sweet slumber. Try to allow yourself some extra time to wake up before the morning routine begins, if your alarm sound is stressing you out then buy a new one or wake up to some motivating music.
Try some new things out today and this week that can help eliminate hidden stressors in your life.
Creating Balance

Honestly...where is all the honesty??

Being an honest individual is much more than just speaking truth with your mouth. Individuals must have an honest lifestyle. Many people feel that once in awhile it is OK to tell "small white lies" to protect, to cover up, and to in essence keep things simpler, however, there is no such thing as white lies, it is a myth. A lie is a lie, no matter how you look at it. Keeping the truth from other people, or twisting the truth is a lie.

All of these tactics are used to help people get out of trouble with their clients, boss, spouse, or families. What really truly happens though is that deep in the heart of the people they live with, work with, or work for....people find out your a fraud. Those who live their lives in fraudulent states can not be trusted. If they are lying to others, sooner or later they are lying to you....and themselves.

I will give you classic examples of dishonest behavior....see if you can relate?

** You are late for an appointment because you slept in and took your good old time leaving the house, you make a quick and formal phone call, saying, "I'm on my way to meet you, i got held up." Now as your making this call....your actually still sipping your coffee...

YOU DID NOT GET HELD UP....you were being lazy, why don't you just be honest? Well...because if you were honest with them and yourself...that you are in fact a lazy person with no sense of time management, that it would scare you to death and you could lose your job, financial security, or relationships.

**Second example, " You try and hide something important from your family and friends." You make up stories or avoid the truth by deterring conversation and bring up distractions. You fear the truth could bring devastation, disappointment, hurt, so you keep it from them in your efforts to be a hero and protect them, but really all your doing is making the situation worse by keeping the truth from those you love. Truth always surfaces eventually.

**And one last example, "When you share something about another one's private life and details they did not want you to share and you say, "I promise, I will not tell anyone you have told me this in confidence...and then you run to your mother, brother, friend...and blab your mouth but say at the end...please pray for them and don't mention I told you." YOU HAVE LIED. You have not been an individual with whom trust could be given. Why do we do this? Why do good people make poor choices?

I can tell you some of the reasons...is because they lack discipline, respect for themselves and others, and lack of boundaries. I am sure you could list a few yourself if you actually sit and thought for awhile...

People have not really lived much by the phrase, "the truth will set you free," much these days. So what has happened is we have become surrounded by a society of people who feel it is OK to mask the truth. What happens is that people then become in bondage to their own behavior and their lives become anything but transparent.

Encouraging you today....to be a more honest person this year. Make better choices with your mouth and behavior. Watch how the world around you...changes...for the better. Truth is not always easy, fun, or the most rewarding but it is better to be honest then to be caught up in a lie.

People are always watching....even if you think they are not!

Healthy boundaries for your life

Everyone at times experiences the pull into different directions. The stress, the anxiety, and even fear this causes is completely unhealthy. Unfortunately, we live in a society where very few people understand let alone practice establishing healthy boundaries in their lives. All to easily things overtake your relationships and you become enmeshed with people or situations that you should not be that involved in to begin with.

When one suffers from totally taking ownership of their life, ultimately, they are living a boundary less lifestyle. When there is confusion about responsibility and ownership the problem is lack of boundaries. Boundaries are healthy if established properly. A boundary in this context refers to where you end and another person begins. First of all establish the areas where you feel pulled, stressed, taken advantage of, abused, or even manipulated in and pinpoint who or what makes you feel this way. Once you see where it begins you then need to draw a line and do not cross it or allow others to cross it. The one thing that is very important is that you enforce what you are going to establish for your life.

Once you have pinpointed those areas figure out which ones you are contributing to by not establishing a healthy boundary. What do you need to let go of in your life? There are things you will have to give up sometimes to live a life with boundaries. Family and career are two of the biggest areas this affects. The two involve relationships that are spent with those in very close proximity, which usually leads to a crossing of boundaries eventually. People sometimes do not know how to draw a line in the sand between themselves and others situations. The tendency to do so creates a very unhealthy pattern in your life. This pattern creates stress, anxiety, and sometimes a lack of respect for yourself and those around you.

Respect yourself enough to know where you as a person end in a relationship, job, project, business deal, volunteer opportunity, ministry, etc... Those around you need to understand that they do not control your time, life, or priorities.
The only one who can show them this is you! Be clear in what you have to say, stick to what you actually say, and carry through with what you have decided on.
* Boundaries are setting a clear path to equip you to live a healthier life and be a stronger person.

Taking ownership in your life and being responsible

There are many people who refuse to grow up and take responsibility serious. It is sad but in some cases they never saw how to be disciplined or taught how to be responsible, however, as an adult you have a choice to change who you are and what you become for the people around you. The first thing that you have to do is realize that you are in fact irresponsible and have a hard time taking ownership in your life. This may not stem from anything you have even done as a child, you may have been brought up in a home where there were no boundaries established and you have no sense of discipline. You can change that though by taking a step towards maturity and responsible behavior. There comes a time in everyone's life where the "blame" game doesn't matter anymore, and you must stop in your tracks and take charge of your actions, behavior, and choices.

1. You must realize that in being responsible and living your life to reflect that means, you have to make different decisions. You have an obligation as a human being in your job, marriage, and relationships to be responsible to those around you. People depend on you and if you fail to show them that you are capable to being responsible, your letting them down. As an adult, you are supposed to be living your life as an example now to those younger than you, your coworkers, your family...it is something you must take seriously.

   Take steps to ensure you make better choices. If you need to seek counseling or have someone in your life that you are accountable to for a little time than do that for yourself and those you love. This is just an example, but if you struggle with finances; take a class on money management. Your life is full of many years and many people who will love you and need you to be a better individual. You must begin to put other people above yourself and your decisions. Every decision you make will affect someone else, make sure you make good decisions so you will make a positive impact with your life.

   And lastly, realize how strong of a person you are and how much God has given you to accomplish in your life. You are the one in charge of what you make of your life. Your the only one who can choose to live healthier, make changes, and be responsible for yourself. Do not let the stress of circumstances keep you from making wise choices, you always have a choice...always!

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