Dear Uncertainty...

Yeah I just wrote a letter to " Uncertainty", seems odd but strangely enough seeing it made me think about the last few years of my life. According to the dictionary, uncertainty:is the unknown, the doubtful, the one thing that has not been revealed. In the last few years uncertainty has been the one thing in my life that has been constant among other things.  If anyone knows me well enough and close enough they know that things have not been easy. I have at times questioned, wondered and prayed about these uncertain times.
And guilty mostly at allowing it to ruin my day sometimes. I get caught up in the sadness, disappointments, or setbacks. I have had to ask forgiveness, reset, and regroup over and over again.
There are so many things that we will never understand. The past few years I have dealt with all of this personally or have seen this happen within my inner circle: the death of those we loved or didn't have a chance to love, rejection from those we trusted in, accidental deaths, incurable sickness, the bipolar and untreated toxic family member who continues to cause chaos, mental illnesses, the job losses, the financial crisis, depression, loved one's who betray us, loved ones who choose not love you or be part of your life! All of it happens and all of it hurts,confuses, and bewilders even the strongest of souls.
How does anyone even get past it all? How can you go on with this darkness in your spirit sometimes that you feel is beyond being lit again, how can you soar when you feel like you have lost all will or reason?
I have learned that to question is ok... but in times where it seems "bittering" we need God. Not a god, but the one true GOD. We can stand on the corner of bitter or better and choose to walk in bitter but if we do it will destroy you from the inside out. We need a hope to believe in, we need a foundation stronger then who we are, and what we think were made of, and it only comes from obtaining faith. Faith is not a crutch, faith is the reason and hope that we all need when we go through things we don't understand.
We must choose in our minds that today will not be a day we will allow uncertainty to ruin us.
Whatever it is that you are going through today, you have to know that you are certainly not alone, this time is only temporary, and tomorrow is a new day.
But as for today... do not allow what you don't understand keep you from all that God has purposed you for in this lifetime.

Mom, you are beautiful!

It was one of those days, I am sure if you are a parent or have had a parent you can relate to what I am about to share. The time on the clock seemed to somehow reach out and slap me in the face as I quickly glanced at it and realized it was not even 8 am. A weekday! Yes a busy work filled, purpose driven day, full of everything it needed and most of what I did not in that moment. I was a mom, a wife, a women's leader, a business owner, and the list goes on. I had a list of orders to fill, clients to call, laundry piling, and a mound of 58  socks that I can not seem to find their mate! I had a puppy barking for breakfast, a husband who could not find his keys, a 5 year old who had a bloody nose, and a 2 year old who pooped her way into a new day! It was lovely. I had no time for my needs. I wanted a shower. I wanted to do my hair, I wanted to brush my teeth, drink some water, and make myself a healthy breakfast, but that was no where in sight; not for at least an hour or two ( if I was lucky).
I felt sick, I felt overwhelmed. I needed strength! I need a life coach for crying out loud! I needed to go down stairs and read some of my own material! What I really wanted though was to get in my car drive to the nearest Starbucks, get my misto and check in to the nearest day spa and stay there until it all just went away. The needs, they were great. The neediness of my little family, my adorable puppy,endless emails, the job,church ministries,unpaid bills, my ghastly hair, and my hungry stomach; it was screaming silently at me. And I wanted it to just, "Stop!"
Have you been there? If you are being honest I know you can relate! I was tired, deeply! In that moment I went to work, I pushed through how I felt. I packed the lunch, kicked the 58  socks into a corner, pulled my out of control hair back, and cleaned up the poop. (literally)
But I was sad, overwhelmed, and exhausted. It was not even 8 am remember! I managed to sit for a few moments to sip the cold coffee I poured 30 minutes ago and my five year old looked at me,as she was getting ready to walk out the door for school. Her free spirit and love of life captured my heart. Here was this beautiful little child, my child! She had no idea of the pressures of life I had been living through, she did not know that mommy had a bunch of bills to pay and there was not enough money,she did not know her sister had welcomed the day with a dirty diaper, she did not even care that there were 58 pairs of socks laying on the floor. All she knew was that I was here with her, (as bad as I felt).
I bent down to kiss her head and she grabbed my face and looked up at me and said, "Mom, I think you are beautiful! "
I could have given her a million kisses in that moment if it were possible. She spoke life into my very being. I can assure you I was not beautiful in that moment. I felt hurried, tired, broken, and obviously un-showered. I will not forget that moment in time. It was just a second, a small phrase spoken by my little brown eyed girl, but she was used to speak an incredible amount of renewed energy into my very being.
You see; moms and dads, we do a ton. A ton of which is never seen by anyone at times. Most times, most people have no idea what is really going on in your life. There are moms out there who are tired, worn down, and lost in the transition. There are dads out there who seem to try to do it all with no end in sight. You are not alone and this is not in vain. ( I am taking this all in!)
You have no idea the difference you make in the lives of those you live with. To them, you are their world, you make it what ever you display.
I know it is stinken hard, I am not going to say I think parenting is easy. I think its the toughest job out there. This is coming from a girl who worked three jobs in my 20's just to survive. I am telling you being a parent, working, and keeping your family strong is a major deal! A huge sacrifice.
I never knew how much was invested. I can tell you one thing, I appreciate my mom and dad more now than ever before. Now that I'm the one up to my elbows in poop, stress, and mornings without a shower. I can tell you one thing, I know it won't last. These day are fleeting and we need to hold on to the moments when we can find solace in the eyes of your children, the beautiful little one's that you will hand off your legacy to. Let it be one worth handing over.

Take a deep breath! It's going faster than you think!

Mini Spa Set

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Our skin absorbs everything and is our largest organ. We need to put safe products on our skin!
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Become all you were meant to be!

Do you feel like you constantly are up against a wall? Discouragement and sadness can come in like a flood and overwhelm. There are so many things that can come against us from day to day that can feel like everything is gone, you will never be happy, your life will never turn around. But it can! Reclaim your life...reclaim what negative things have tried to take from you. God wants you to soar and be all you were created to be.
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Words Of Life

Have you ever heard someone say that you can speak life into someone else's life? To speak life-filled words into another person is like blowing a little wind into their sails. It is amazing what some uplifting words of encouragement can do for someone. I challenge you today to think of someone in your life you can speak some good things over and  into their inner spirit today. The heart and the mind are incredible places.
Here is what I am talking about in a real life breathing moment.
This morning I went to fill up some water containers. When I arrived at the spring, I saw a man who was cleaning all around the area. This man was wiping all the water spouts off and making sure the entire place was clean and presentable for anyone stopping there today to get fresh water from the dispenser's. I asked him if the machine's were working properly, and he assured me they were and that he was just working on cleaning.
I then proceeded to ask him if he was the one who serviced this public place weekly. The man replied, "yes I do."
I wanted him to know how important this place was and that it is a huge blessing to the community. I told him how much this meant to me and my family to be able to come here and get clean drinking water and that the facility was always kept so nice.
The man stood there, and with a shocked look on his face; said "thank you so much!"
I then told him that it was important he knew that his job was of value and that what he was doing meant so many things to other people and that he did something important for the community.
The man was stunned. I was in no way intentionally trying to make him look like a deer in headlights or anything, I was just simply expressing my gratitude for how this man was working.
The gentleman was so moved by the sincerity of the conversation that he then told me that I could fill all my water containers today for free.
I could not believe it! I just said a few kind words to someone who I thought needed encouragement and he turned around and blessed me right back.
That is just one story of what happens when you choose to speak something life-filling into someone's life rather than tearing them down or complaining and criticizing.
Target a special person today or a complete stranger and speak something positive over them, you may be very surprised what you see. 

Work on YOU!

Many people don't want to work on themselves. The process is too deep, too hard, too painful, too time consuming, too much work, etc...I have heard it all. The truth behind this is very simple though. If you do not work on yourself, no one else will. Change only happens when you put your mind to it and get to a point where the pains of being the same hurt worse then the pains change will bring. If that never comes then most people will continue to live the stagnant, existing life they have always lived. Life is supposed to be thriving, there should be growth, signs of change, positive fruit shown in your life. By fruit I mean qualities that are whole, right, and true. Qualities that are loving, patient, honest, kind, faithful, joyful ,peaceful, and lovely. These kinds of character traits are not given to everyone at birth, some people by nature or ability are more loving and gentle...but all these qualities should be worked on as you progress through life. Qualities are just a tip on the iceberg there are issues of well being that encompasses lifestyle, environment, choices, and spiritual decisions.

It is much easier for some people to just give up on their dreams, their aspirations, their marriages, their families, their well being all for the selfish reason that it is just too much work. Marriage is too hard so they get a divorce. Staying healthy is too difficult and they will never be in good shape so they sulk over a fudge brownie. Working a fulfilling job is out of reach so they work a job they hate till they retire and then live with regret that they never did what they wanted to do or were made to do. Knowing that God wants to have a relationship with them is just too uncomfortable so they spend a lifetime searching for fulfillment in a world full of empty promises and the void is never filled like it should be.

It is about a choice, everyone has them, every single person has the same 24 hours a day, every single day! What choice will you make? What direction will you allow your mind to take you today?

How to keep your mind healthy.

Spring is here...so get rid of the clutter!

Organization is not something everyone is good at, however, it does not mean you have to live like a slob. Organize periodically and try to keep up with the clutter! The first thing you absolutely have to do when organizing is to set some time aside one day to throw away junk and make piles of what you want to keep. Also, create a pile of things you can donate to charity and free up more space in your closet's or counter tops.

Buy a filing cabinet and file everything you want to keep for your records. Mark the tabs very specifically such as: electric bill, car insurance, receipt's, health insurance, etc... Once you have this in place make a conscious effort to file it away. A few other suggestions are plastic storage bins. The clear plastic bins are great because you can see through them, they stack very neat, and you can write on the outside what the contents includes.

One last thing to do is to stand over the trash can as you go through your mail. I know that sounds very elementary, however, if you get your mail and through it on the counter it starts to build up to a leaning tower of mess. When you open up ads and junk mail toss it right away and say good bye to extra "clutter" you do not need. An organized living space is now in reach! A clutter free space is always a healthier place for you and your family.

Are you a success?

Many people define success in different ways. Some define how successful they have been by how much money they make, how many friends they have, what sort of people they know, or by how many people that love them. How you determine what makes you a success is what defines who you are as an individual. These qualities are what will make you special and in what areas you will excel in your life.

You have to start by thinking about the very question, "What does it mean to be successful?"

What is it that you want to get out of your life, while you have a life to get anything out of?

These are tough questions in deciding what is behind the forces driving you to go forward in your life. For some people, they do not ever really know what they really want in life. Many go through life sort of floating thinking that life has handed them whatever they are "supposed" to do. And for some, they settle into believing that they could never possibly attain the dream they have deep in their heart. And then there are those who are driven by things that they really do not understand, and at the end of their life they sit there and think about the choices they make and they have regret.

Here are a few quick steps in helping you think about your life and how you view success.

1. Where do you want to be in 5 years? What are the things you want to be doing in 5 years?

2.How will you get there? What are choices I need to be making today to keep me on the right track?

3.What are areas in my life that I want to achieve success with? (health, relationships, finances, etc.)

4. Do you need to establish more balance in those area's? Are there area's where you are functioning in an out of control state that keeps you from moving ahead?

By asking yourself these questions and being honest with yourself about the outcome you can start to give yourself some goals to work towards in changing your future success as an individual and accomplishing your dreams, goals, and needs.

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Where is all the kindness?

It seems sort of juvenile to actually ask someone to be kind, almost as if you were in kindergarten. However, it is very sad but kindergarten is where most people stopped listening. Where is the kindness? We live in a society with so much media surrounding us it is very easy to become desensitized to people's pain or humanity for that matter.

To be kind is to show someone the utmost love and compassion they deserve as a human being. The first step to being kind is to show that you are concerned about them. Take a few steps back out of your own "world" and enter theirs. Be sincere when you speak with them and truly engage in conversation without thinking of how you can chirp in and add your opinion. Understand that your opinion is really ... just an opinion. People need other people, it is the way we are designed. Listening is so important when your trying to be kind to someone else.

Compassion is not naturally given to some people and most people have a mean streak that can actually go very deep. Figure out what inside of you makes you be mean. Hurting people are the one's who hurt people. In order to be kind you have to be healed of your hurt or past disappointments.

Being kind is something that starts to filter into your private life as you choose more wisely with your actions and words. If your kind to someone in public and then behind closed doors you say mean things or verbally attack someone and their character, then your not kind, and your living a lie. Kindness most be a reflection of who you are on the inside not just an act to make others like you.

If you are by nature an unkind person and life's made you mean, than start doing things that are not typically like you as a person. Here are some examples to help you along your start to being a kind person:

1. be more generous
2. if your prone to always give an opinion ... don't
3. listen before you speak
4. stop being so self absorbed and selfish
5. be more compassionate and show love
6. be sincere with your word's
There are many ways one can try to be more kind to those around them. Life will provide the opportunity, it is up to you to take it and help change the world and just maybe someone else's life while your at it.